DO'S AND DON'TS
How to make sure you get the most out of MFD
The adult/swing parties have been booming in the last couple of years as more and more couples and singles decide to relax their inhibitions and explore their sexuality. However, as with all social experiences, there are some definite DO's and DONT'S. A little common courtesy goes a long way to smoothing what can be, at times, (especially for beginners) a slightly awkward experience. Some of these are obvious to most of you, but we want to make sure everybody is aware of what is expected of them at adult/swing parties, especially ours!
MAKE A RESERVATION
Let your hosts know that you are coming. If you find you can't go after having made a reservation, call back and cancel. It makes it a lot easier to plan the proper amount of food and keep track of who hasn't arrived yet when I know how many guests to expect. Don't take someone to an adult party who is not fully informed as to the nature of the party and their expected behavior.
Attractive but casual party clothes are best. Good grooming is a must! Be aware of your body and take care of it. Few things kill the mood more quickly than body odor. Also be aware of your kisses tasting of cigarettes or liquor. Keep money, jewelery and other valuables at a minimum. Don't eat, drink or smoke in any bedroom.
People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn't mean you should be a 'brat' and disrespect others, it means you should "let your hair down". Also, whether or not you're interested in partying with someone or a couple in particular, remember to always be polite. You may have other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction. In adult parties, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people over time and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate.
Adult parties can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly "hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated. When meeting potential partners the same applies: be polite, even if you don't think there's any potential for intimacy, you could still have a
great time anyways. Keep an open mind.
Remember, "no" means "no." Anyone has the right to refuse your advances as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any explanation, at adult parties an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will match perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings. If there's someone that you would like to be intimate with, let them know in a friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be. If they change their mind, they'll let you know. Everyone has the right of refusal. Only ask those you want to say "yes." If they say "no," take it graciously. When you say "yes" to others, be honest and enthusiastic. When you say "no," be tactful and courteous.
PRACTICE SAFE SEX
In this current time, the following should be assumed but just in case we have to make sure this is definitely followed. Practicing safe sex is, of course, a person's choice but it's a very important choice. Especially in this day and age, anyone's decision to use condoms should be politely accepted. Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the courtesy of respecting their comfort level.
Adult partying is about having a good time. Live out some fantasies, explore your sexuality and enjoy! These parties have plenty to offer with clothes on as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humor A Good mental attitude and emotional health will make you popular. The person with the smile, ready laugh and an obvious interest in others is the person others like to be around.